Hi, I'm Skylar.
Midlife guide
& pro-aging advocate.
I'm 51, originally from London, and I've been a New Yorker since 2014. Through personalized meditations and ceremonies, I've helped hundreds of women across the globe reconnect with their core truth and courage.
I know what it feels like to live with a longing that doesn't make sense to other people.
I know what it's like to be in a life where all the boxes are checked. Right husband. Right job. Right house. Right circle of friends.
And I know what it's like to want to bolt from that life.
Back in my thirties, I was on the trajectory that everyone in my life expected me to be on. It was all perfectly fine on paper, enviable even. But inside I felt as though I was slowly dying and silently screaming.
My marriage wasn't working. My job was sucking the life from me. Our apartment looked like a show home but it didn't feel like the sanctuary I longed for. And my entire social life revolved around binge-drinking.
My own wants and desires were buried so deep I couldn't reach them.
There was a constant voice in my head telling me I couldn't continue like this. But every day I carried on, thinking if I just stuck to the script then it would all come together. After all, what did I really have to complain about?
Then one day I realized that nothing was going to change unless I did. So I left my enviable life and I created a whole new one. I walked away from my marriage and my home. I kept my job and my questionable social habits for a while longer, but eventually I let those go too.
What began was a journey of reclamation. The coming years saw me go through a divorce, move back in with my parents, quit my job, travel solo in India for six months, change my name, get remarried, leave London for New York, and begin a whole new business.
I wasn't trying to find myself. I was trying to remember myself. The version of me that had never had a chance to breathe, much less become.
In that period of my life, I needed two things, and I didn't yet have a name for either of them.
The first thing I needed was a daily anchor. Something I could return to on the mornings when my old life felt easier than the one I was building. Something that reminded me, with clarity and specificity, who I was choosing to be and why. Not having that cost me years of doubling back on choices I’d already made.
That’s what Touchstones are. Personalized meditations you can return to every day, created around what you’re reclaiming, using language that keeps you connected to your truth.
The second was a moment of declaration. A line in the sand. A clear place where I could say: that life is behind me, and this is the one I’m choosing now. Without that, I kept slipping back into my old life. I needed a container for the decisions I wanted to make and the life I wanted to claim. Something that would tell my body and my mind that the change was real, and that I was the one making it.
That’s what Customized Ceremonies are. A way to mark a change so it becomes something concrete, something you can stand inside, rather than something that keeps drifting out of reach.
I built both because I know how lonely it is to be in the middle of major change, or even a series of smaller changes, with nothing to anchor you. The work I do now is the work I needed then.
“I hope you live a life you’re proud of. I hope you feel things you never felt before. And if you find that you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again.”
— Eric Roth, The Curious Case of Benjamin Button
For every "big brave move" I've made, there have been countless smaller acts of courage that mattered just as much. Becoming our truest selves doesn't have to mean leaving a relationship or making a name change. Your own reclamation doesn't require you to plant a dynamite stick in the middle of your life.
But it does involve paying attention to the feeling you've been pushing down. The one that persistently pops into your head while you’re doing the dishes or you’re wide awake and restless at 4am. The one that keeps saying: I just want a life I feel alive in.
I didn't do any of it alone. When I was figuring out who I was after my divorce, including deciding to change my name, I worked with a coach. I had a spark inside me, but I needed someone to help me access it, trust it, and reflect it back to me when I couldn’t see it clearly myself.
The women who come to me are often the same. Capable of finding their own way back, but not without someone to hold the thread while they do it.
That's what I do. I hold the thread.
I don’t believe in fearlessness, but I refuse to let fear stop me from claiming what I want for myself. As Georgia O’Keeffe said:
“I've been absolutely terrified every moment of my life - and I've never let it keep me from doing a single thing I wanted to do.”
Roots & Responsibility
I grew up in a half-English, half-Irish, working class family in London. I learned early on that women's voices were often suppressed and I was determined to make mine matter. When I was eleven, I held my first activist meeting in my bedroom to spread awareness about animal testing. My mum and my sister came.
I’ve been on a spiritual path for decades. I’ve studied meditation in India, London, and New York, but I identify with a secular, nature-based approach. For the last two years I’ve been exploring my Irish ancestry and pagan practices rooted in reciprocity with the earth.
I'm a white woman who has participated in predominantly white spaces without asking enough questions beforehand about diversity and representation. I'm working to do better.
I'm committed to honoring the places and people from which practices originate, and acting with integrity rather than extraction or appropriation.
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My work has been shaped by fifteen years of study and practice in meditation and yoga across London, India, Cyprus, and New York. The ritual work I do now is rooted in my years of teaching themed classes built around intention-setting and integration.
My studies include:
Brahma Kumaris in London; Satinder Singh in McLeod Ganj, India; and Sonic Yoga & Meditation Teacher Training in New York City, alongside ongoing practice with Blue Cow Yoga & Meditation, The Alchemy Centre, Sadhaka, and Triyoga in London. I've also completed continuing professional development with Yoga Alliance UK and workshops at Pure Yoga in New York, and continue to deepen my learning through a secular, nature-based lens.
Currently, I am studying online with the Irish Pagan School based in County Waterford, Ireland, and am enrolled in a year-long Matriarchal Leadership program with Nisha Moodley.
This foundation has shaped how I work with women during moments of change. From this place, I create Touchstones, personalized meditations designed as daily anchors, and Customized Ceremonies (available in-person and virtually) that give you a clear container for deciding who you are now and what you're choosing next.
I’m a lover of
Ginger tea ● Classical music and eighties pop ● The story beneath the story ● Fluffy dogs ● Poetry that stirs the soul ● Libraries ● Being by the ocean ● Milk chocolate ● The solitary moment that we can claim as ours and ours alone ● Michelle Obama, because obviously
I’m a believer in
A woman’s right to choose ● Black Lives Matter ● Boundaries ● LGBTQIA rights ● Joy ● Opposing systems that weaponize power against the vulnerable ● The transformative power of creativity ● Intersectionality and gaining a greater understanding of experiences that are not mine ● Protecting and respecting nature ● The magic that happens when women come together in true community
I’m committed to
Not promoting anything anti-aging ● Not promoting “health” aids or supplements that support diet-culture ● Asking better questions about who else is in the room before I say yes
