Hi, I’m SKYlar.

writer.
Coach.
Introvert.
pro-aging advocate.

I’m 49, originally from London and I’ve been a New Yorker since 2014. For over a decade I’ve been helping women find the courage to show up as their most authentic, empowered selves. I’ve created five online courses and led numerous circles, offering the women I work with an opportunity to create meaningful change in their lives and liberate themselves from all the “shoulds”.

I’m INFJ. I love spending time in solitude but I also thrive on connecting with others. I’m compassionate and curious, intuitive and adventurous. I believe sensitivity is a superpower, and creativity and community are key in helping us build richer, more fulfilling lives.

After reaching my mid-forties I found myself feeling despondent about aging. I was struggling with the way I looked, and fearful that my best years were behind me. Then I realized that unless I wanted to spend the next half of my life feeling depressed about getting older, I needed to turn the experience around.

I started to get curious about what was really fueling my fear of aging. I began educating myself on what an anti-aging culture is designed to do, and how it impacts our self-esteem. Once I’d begun to recognize how ridiculous the vast majority of societal expectations are, especially relating to women and aging, I was able to disentangle myself from them and enjoy a freedom I’d never before experienced.

Already a writer and coach for women’s empowerment, I shifted the focus of my work to helping women embrace aging. I can now say I'm more confident at 49 than I ever was in my twenties. It's my mission to help other women feel the same.

courage & truth are at the core of my work

  • ON COURAGE

    In my twenties I left a marriage that everybody wanted me to stay in. I also left a “job for life” because I was slowly dying in it.

    In my thirties I changed my birth name, sold all my belongings and took off on a six month solo trip to India.

    In my forties I left London to move to NYC and build two businesses. I live with joy and anxiety. I do not believe in fearlessness but I refuse to let fear stand in my way. As Georgia O’Keeffe so beautifully said: “I've been absolutely terrified every moment of my life - and I've never let it keep me from doing a single thing I wanted to do.”

  • ON TRUTH

    Having spent the first four decades of my life feeling immense pressure to be perfect in order to be liked and accepted, I have found great joy and liberation in rejecting a set of unattainable ideals I never chose in the first place and simply telling the truth about my experiences.

    In an age of influencers and an era of filters, I find myself wanting to strip it all back and share in the most honest and authentic way I can.

    My work is about offering sanctuary and support for women in midlife to help them connect to their own truths and have the courage to move boldly forward in their lives.

Ginger tea ● Classical music and eighties pop  ● The story beneath the story ● Fluffy dogs ● Poetry that stirs the soul  ● New York City ● Being by the ocean ● Damn good chocolate ● The solitary moment that we can claim as ours and ours alone ● Michelle Obama, because obviously

I’M A LOVER OF

I’M A BELIEVER IN

A woman’s right to choose ● Black Lives Matter ● Boundaries ● LGBTQIA rights ● Joy ● The transformative power of creativity ● Protecting and respecting nature ● Intersectionality and gaining a greater understanding of experiences that are not mine ● The magic that happens when women come together in true community

I’M COMMITTED TO

Not promoting anything anti-aging ● Not promoting “health” aids or supplements that support diet-culture ● Not appearing on panels or summits that don’t have fair representation of people of color

✺ AS FEATURED BY ✺

Global Institute for Extraordinary Women

AUTHORITY MAGAZINE

CNN

HUFF POST

WOMEN YOU SHOULD KNOW

THE NEW YORK POST

THE PRO-AGE WOMAN

GUIDED MIND

MASS APPEAL MAGAZINE

THE NATIONAL WOMEN'S HISTORY MUSEUM

Global Institute for Extraordinary Women AUTHORITY MAGAZINE CNN HUFF POST WOMEN YOU SHOULD KNOW THE NEW YORK POST THE PRO-AGE WOMAN GUIDED MIND MASS APPEAL MAGAZINE THE NATIONAL WOMEN'S HISTORY MUSEUM

My 2020 documentary diary: A Woman in the World is featured in the National Women's History Museum as part of their Women Writing History project.

I share meditations, talks, and courses on Insight Timer where I have a growing community. I’d love to connect with you there.

A couple of times a month I send out a Substack newsletter where I share snippets about my journey with aging, as well as special offers, sneak previews and content that I don't share anywhere else. Sign up to receive it. It’ll help you feel less alone on your own journey.

I’m thrilled you’re here and I’m looking forward to getting to know you.